He LIED to me!

Yes folks, you read that title right. But whom? You might be asking? Remember my last post, where I told you guys that my dad had called my aunt, and it seemed like he called her just to ask what my daughter should be eating? Well, turns out that was a BIG FAT LIE!!!!!!!

Let me 'splain....
Yesterday (Monday, for those of you who read this late), Canito, Jay and I went to my Grandma's (♥) house. I hadn't seen her in like 2 weeks. And my aunt lives with her, as well as my aunt's husband, and their 8 month old son. We were talking, having a good time. We're a close family, so we LOVE spending time together. My aunt, to me, is more like a sister than an aunt. We were sitting down, and eating dinner, and the conversation led to my dad, his new girlfriend, and that "call" he made to my other aunt in NJ. 


We started telling them the conversations that my dad and I have been having, and how they're never more than 5 minutes in duration, how he calls me less, and now when he calls me, its usually to criticize me. I also told them how Jay HATES baby food. She will not eat them unless I put it in a plate, and let her have at it by herself. But, she doesn't eat all of it. She makes more of a mess on her high chair, and on herself than she actually eats. We then told them about the so called "phone call" that my dad made to my aunt in NJ. 


My 2 aunts are BEST FRIENDS. They talk every day, more than once a day. My aunt told me that it wasn't true. My dad never called Aunt NJ. Aunt NJ would have told Aunt PR. I was stunned. Why would my dad lie about that? 


I told them about the conversation we had, and how that supposedly Aunt NJ told my dad that my daughter has to eat her baby food. Aunt PR said that Auny NJ would NEVER tell me that. Aunt NJ has a 6 month old daughter. She has never -and I repeat- NEVER given her daughter baby food. She buys frozen veggies, and blends them up herself. I said that I was giving Jay canned veggies (thank goodness not for long), and Aunt PR said that's not good, because cans have BPA. Thats not good. Now, I'm not exactly sure what BPA is, (gotta google it ;).) but I do know that its very unhealthy for babies. That's why when your looking for bottles, or pacifiers, etc, you want to make sure that the label says, "BPA FREE." Aunt PR then told me that not even her son likes baby food, so she makes his food, blends it up, and he LOVES it. 


If you look at the labels on baby food, they're not so healthy. Carrots alone have A LOT of sodium. I also told them what he was telling me about Rosa jr. already eating baby food. Like I said before, babies have little holes in their stomachs (said by my Aunt NJ-the pediatrician), that makes it difficult for them to digest anything that isn't breast milk, or formula. I also told them, that I told my dad just that. Rosa jr. SHOULD NOT be eating baby foods just yet. If you remember his response: "Well, she's eating baby foods for babies that are 3 months." I told Aunt PR that, she said, "BUT THERE'S NO SUCH THING!" I have NEVER heard my aunt curse before, but I think what I was telling her yesterday about my dad really pissed her off. She actually cursed. (!) And I told them how Rosa jr. is already size 3 diapers (16-28 lbs), and she's only 3 months. Even they said that she's going to have A LOT of health problems growing up. She can't digest that food properly. My aunt was HEATED. I also told them that almost every conversation my dad and I have, I hang up crying, because he's always criticizing me, and he never used to do that before he got with Rosa. And now, he compares Rosa jr. to Jay. Even she said that you should hold out on baby foods, and cereals as long as possible. Only when your pediatrician says that your baby can eat food should you feed him/her baby foods or cereals. And even then, try to make them at home. Buy frozen or fresh veggies and fruit, and blend them. I can assure you that they'll like them a hell of a lot better than baby food. And season them the same way you'd season your own food- babies don't like tasteless, bland food- and neither do we.


I felt a hell of a lot better after I talked to them. I even feel more confident about my mothering skills. Today, I went food shopping, and I bought a lot of vegetables, and fruits, and I'm going to cook the vegetables and give them to Jay. And with the fruits, I'm going to make her smoothies. With COW'S MILK. Since she's a year, she should be drinking cow's milk. I read on babycenter.com yesterday that she NEEDS it. And I can start with a small amount. I'll blend it all together, and that can be her night-time bottle.


So, yes folks. My dad LIED to me about calling Aunt NJ. He only said that so I can do with Jay what Rosa is doing with Rosa jr. I'M NOT GOING TO DO THAT. I'd rather listen to my aunt's, and my grandma, about how to feed my child before I listen to my dad. That was just mean, what he did. I understand that he worries about Jay, but I think I'm a good mom, and I'm raising her the right way. I'm going to start -and keep- doing what my aunt suggested, and make her food. Including meat, and some fish. She's old enough for all of that. And guess what? SHE'S SIZE 4 IN DIAPERS!!!
Wait till my dad hears that! Well... that is if we even talk for more than 5 minutes, I can actually tell him. If not, well then, he'll figure it out sooner or later. 


IDK if I can trust my dad anymore. The situation might seem small, but with my history (see earlier posts about my mom), once you lie to me about something near and dear to my heart, "te cagaste", which means you shitted, or in other words, you fucked up. I don't appreciate him criticizing me about my daughter, and/or lieing to me, just so I can do with my daughter what Rosa is doing with hers. NO BABY IS ALIKE. My daughter is healthy (thank God), but Rosa jr. won't be as healthy as Jay. And that's because I waited to give her baby food. 


If you have a kid, FOLLOW THE DOCTOR'S INSTRUCTIONS. Unless the instructions are just down-right stupid, or you don't agree with them. But remember, babies can't eat everything we do at such a young a age. 
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What should I write about in my next post? It's your choice. Just leave a comment, suggesting something, or asking a question, and I'll answer it to the best of my knowledge. (or I'll just google it.) ;) JUST KIDDING! LOL. Sort of. =) Happy Tuesday night, or Wednesday, or whenever you read this. =D